Polygamy: The social consequences of abuse

By TALA AL-HEJAILAN, ARABNEWS

Since the turn of the 21st century, the Saudi population has grown nearly 18 percent.

At present, it is estimated that Saudi Arabia’s population is expanding at a rate of 2.06 percent annually. A recent Saudi-based study shows that 34 percent of the Saudi population is under 15 years of age, while 56 percent are aged 20 and below. Citizens aged between 21 and 40 make up 30 percent of the population, and 14 percent are over 40 years old, which has undeniably serious repercussions on employment, education, housing and health. None of this is new information, but we need to take such information into consideration regularly. Needless to say, the urgency for social and economic development is crucial because of population growth.

One of Saudi Arabia’s challenges in this century is how to maintain its Islamic identity, which is also its national identity, while making the effort to meet the basic needs and demands of its citizens, specially the young generation. A major issue which is controversial to say the least is the fact that many Saudi families living under the poverty line are large in number (this includes families composed of only father and mother(s) and direct offspring). Men are marrying in threes and fours and having children in the dozens and more.

While there is no denial that in Islam, marrying more than one woman is allowed, there was a reason for this in the past. Men died in battles and women were left widowed with no one to care for them. At the time, polygamy was practical and even necessary. Islam also made it clear that marrying more than one woman is conditional on being able to equally provide for the wives and families. Poverty-stricken men hardly fulfill the latter requirement. The men who are marrying more than one woman can hardly make ends meet to support one child. These are the men who have to bring up dozens of offspring. Today, polygamy in the way that it is being practiced is becoming a national problem.

While visiting underprivileged areas in Saudi Arabia, many young volunteers are finding that families they seek to help are composed of an old sickly father, with three or four wives and more children than a normal classroom would have. The conditions these families live in are inexplicably unfit for human life. The father is too sick in addition to being too underqualified to work, and the wives are unable to afford transportation in order to commute to a job, in addition to always having a child too young to leave at home alone. This setup is unfortunately very common in certain areas of the Kingdom. It is without doubt that if contribution to the rapid population growth is due to the aforementioned scenario, we have a serious problem that needs to be addressed.

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NOTE BY THE EDITOR: Like with all Islamic teachings we need to embrace it ‘in full’ and not only ‘in part’. In this contect we cannot only say that ‘Islam permits polygamy’ but have to also observe the conditions: Equal treatment of all wives and of course also responsibility in looking after the children’s needs.

3 replies

  1. The original author of the article claims:

    While there is no denial that in Islam, marrying more than one woman is allowed, there was a reason for this in the past. Men died in battles and women were left widowed with no one to care for them. At the time, polygamy was practical and even necessary.

    So, I have two questions:

    1. Where are the women coming from that these men are marrying, are they from a different planet?

    2. Why are these women marrying poverty stricken men, rather than the millionaire next door?

    These rhetorical questions expose the wrong premise of the original author!

  2. And another aspect: Why does Saudi Arabia, with all that oil money, lack behind in the education of its citizens? No matter how many children Saudis have, the money spent on US arms could go a long way in educating them all free of charge.

  3. If the author wants to be a christian, there is no compulsion in religion. To say that polygamy has outlived its usefulness has no place in Islam.
    Those millionaires who have refused to marry more than one don’t want to help solve problems affecting not getting husband. It’s just a meer selfishness on their part.
    Is the author aware that women population in the world is more than men? Does he know that more widows exist in the world than men.
    He should revise his article because God is aware that in our time will be relevant.

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