Saudi man yields to fiancée’s demand to marry her three friends
By Staff EMIRATES 24/7
Published Monday, September 10, 2012
A Saudi man who finally decided to marry his long-standing fiancée got the shock of his life when she demanded that he first marry her three friends. Once he overcame his shock, he agreed to her demand.
The unnamed man from the western Saudi town of Taif had thought his fiancée, a school teacher, was joking when she told him that he must marry her three school colleagues before she agrees to marry him.
But he quickly realised the woman was serious when she introduced him to the three women and asked him to marry all of them at the same time.
“He later accepted her demand and married the three, who rented three apartments for their marriage life…the three decided to cooperate to please their husband by meeting every night alternately at each flat to tidy up, cook and wash his clothes,” Kabar Arabic language daily said.
The report did not make clear if the man went ahead and married his fiancée.
Categories: Arab World, Asia, Saudi Arabia
The last sentence of the report is puzzling. What about if he ‘did not get around’ to marry his first choice? Well, we wish them all ‘happily ever after’ …
You think such fiancee still available in KSA? Pl do help in finding out one.
I depart now……….for KSA
The marriage matters are more realistic in saudi Arabia and other Arab (Gulf) countries. Points…
1. The first marriage of a lady is with the will of her Wali only. If she is divorcd or widowed, nobody can interfere with her choice of second marriage.
2. Ladies do not mind if their husband get married to another lady. Each wife has separate accommodation and her rights are protected. And the first wife do not have to serve her husband all the time. He has another wife too to serve him.
3. The Saudi ladies accuse the Indian/Pakistani ladies about being too possesive about their husbands. they accuse them that the Pakistani ladies do not let their husbands enjoy themselve.
4.For every marriage, the groom himself approaches the father of the bride to be. It is not his parents who go to make a deal. Groom goes himself.
5. Matter is settled about dowry (haqq mehr). groom says Riyal 30,000/- the father of lady says, “wallah, my daughter is worth 80,000/-.” If they come to an agreement then a document is written in detail about the date of marriage, dowry etc.
6. The groom pays half the amount immediately. With that money, the ladies family buys her necessary goods (Items, ornaments etc. father gives a part of money to his daughter and keeps some for himself too.
7. The marriage takes place according to plan. Grooms entertains his friends (Baaraatis) at his own home and then (If marriage is in same city) they get on their cars and go to the brides home. On the way they blow horns, quite loud. That is permitted.
8. At brides home they do not eat anything, may be offered some tea (?) It is possible that the groom will bring the bride with him or he may stay at the brides home and they may proceed away for honey moon.
9. There is no Nikah without Rukhsati. The arabic word Nikah implies husband and wife being together, living together. The annoncement that is made in mosques in pakistan is Ijab qabool and that is Khutbat un Nikah. That is not Nikah.
10. If the lady does not depart from fathers home to join her husband, there is no Nikah. There was only an agreement which was not fulfilled.
11. whatever is given to the lady belongs to her. Nobody can take that away from her.
12. Parents look after their young daughters. They give them good education and keep them clean. But they do not care much for the son. He has to look after himself, build himself, be educated and to be capable to earn enough money to get married.
13. Girls in Arabia are getting good education. When men travelling in buses see the school girls walking on the street, they whistle a lot. It was found that only unmarried persons do that, and they may be of any age, even 60 years old (whistling.)
14. When the Saudi ladies saw the American women in uniform with belts and buckles and medals and caps and pistols, drive away swiftly, they were most astonished to see the Amercican ladies coming from (the American military Camp). They could not believe the difference between their own condition (of backwardness and dependence) and the most advanced condition of the American women. They immediately complained that the Arab men had kept them in very bad condition (like animals).
15. The above is the general observation, may not all be exact.
Very interesting aspects of Nikah and Khutabat-un-Nikah. No Nikah is conceived without Rukhsati. All these-like things are unacceptable and alien to Pakistani conditions. It appears that marriage in Arabia is purely a game of money, without huge bank balance, no possibility of marriage, not to talk of happy married life. Negation of preference of having a son is also strange…..
Mr Ghulam Sarwar hats off to you for in depth details. Alas I could have met you a dacade ago.
If one analyses what Mr G Sarwar mentioned KSA traditons relative to sub continent, KSA appears to be closer follower of Islamic traditions.
Not clear how MS Samreen concluded KSA marriages purely games of money. It is just natural. Even in sub continent Jahez, Bari and Haq Mehr etc all the same way money game.
Regarding the last paragraph of Mr. Ghulam Sarwar’s detailed analyses (American female soldiers in Saudi). I was just wondering what influence the satellite TV has on Saudi (and other somewhat ‘protected’ Muslim) ladies? Any ‘in-sight’?
(Looking at my wives’ friends, can I hope to have a veto right?)