Strengthening families is a subject which is one of the core issues of the contemporary world. Hundreds and thousands families are breaking every year around the world. Lack of stable and long-lasting families is a reality which cannot be denied. But the important point to discuss is to find the reason why marriages are breaking. What are the problems? And how we can establish strong, faithful and lasting marriages and families?
I think it is very important and crucial to look for the solutions to strengthen our families. And I believe that strong families guarantee strong societies and stable and peaceful countries. If people are happy and content they can contribute much in the building of better societies and communities.
First of all it must be understood that what marriage is. Marriage or wedding is a legal union between a man and woman, in other words, it is an agreement under which a man and a woman live as husband and wife by legal or religious commitments.
Marriage is a divine bond between husband and wife so as to enjoy social and intimate relationship with each other and to have children. It is one of the most sacred divine contracts between them, so it must be a source of peace and comfort for both of them. Marriage is a part of a social system, which lays down detailed guidelines about the relationship between the two genders. This all makes a family.
One of the main purposes of marriage is to guard against evils and immoralities, to establish a loving and peaceful society and the procreation and protection of human race. And that a mutual love would develop between the couple safeguarding them against the distress of loneliness.
But a question arises: How can we make this relationship of a family stronger and lasting? This is a very important question which should be given great importance. Please permit me to write a few basic points which are the basis of a strong and faithful family.
In status men and women are equal; no one is superior or inferior to the other. But, of course, responsibilities and obligations are different. Therefore respect and love must always be exhibited for the other partner.
The selection of a faithful life partner is a very important factor, for that one must pray to God for a faithful life-partner. In selecting a life partner compatibility is one of the most important factors. In connection with compatibility, there are many things to be considered but faithfulness, morals, human values, religion and spiritual status should be preferred. This is so because, all other things are for a period of time and they are mortal but spirituality and faithfulness will last throughout their life. Consideration is given to social and economic position and worldly means of livelihood. In the same way, family background, education, age and health status are also considered. There is no doubt that the whole world is full of blessings, but there is no greater blessing of the world than a pious life partner.
The relationship between husband and wife should be as between two true, sincere and faithful friends. The husband should treat his wife with great love and respect; the same should be done by the wife. Everyone should try to be the first to help. However, unfortunately, there are those who treat their spouse with such severity and strictness and do not behave with decency and politeness. Such an attitude is most objectionable and is the enemy of a good family life. Respect, love, tolerance are the great weapons to kill such attitude, the enemy of the family.