Written and collected by Zia H Shah MD

I verbalize my question by quoting a short article from Wikipedia about ‘Verbal abuse.’  I know that today most in the West, care rather little about their religion or the religion of others, but, most of the Western people are kind hearted and do care about the feelings of others.  So, my question is what about the feelings of 1.5 billion Muslims, regardless of the source of their feelings?  Is it reasonable to hurt them by insulting the religious founder, the Holy Prophet Muhammad, may peace be on him, whom they love more than their mother or father.  Is it not true that anyone whose father or mother are abused will become furious.  It is a matter of daily experience that we can all tell the difference between a reasoned dialogue or debate to determime the truth of a matter or an attempt to insult, ridicule and incite others.  Can we not?

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:

Verbal abuse (also known as reviling) is described as a negative defining statement told to the person or about the person or by withholding any response thus defining the target as non-existent. If the abuser doesn’t immediately apologize and indulge in a defining statement, the relationship may be a verbally abusive one.^[1]

In schools a young person may indulge in verbal abuse — bullying (which often has a physical component) to gain status as superior to the person targeted and to bond with others against the target. Generally the bully knows no other way to connect emotionally, i.e., be bonded with others.^[2]

In couple relationships the verbal abuser responds to the partner’s “separateness,” i.e., independent thoughts, views, desires, feelings, expressions (even of happiness) as an irritant or even an attack.^[3] While some people believe the abuser has low self-esteem and so attempts to place their victim in a similar position, i.e., to believe negative things about himself or herself this is not usually the case in couple relationships. A man may, for example, disparage a woman partner simply because she has qualities that were disparaged in him, i.e., emotional intelligence, warmth, receptivity and so forth.^{[citation needed]}

A person of any gender, race, culture, sexual orientation, age, or size may experience verbal abuse. Typically, in couple or family relationships verbal abuse increases in intensity and frequency over time.^[4] After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may fall into clinical depression and/or post-traumatic stress disorder. The person targeted by verbal abuse over time may succumb to any stress related illness. Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish in its target.

Despite being the most common form of abuse, verbal abuse is generally not taken as seriously as other types, because there is no visible proof and the abuser may have a “perfect” persona around others. In reality, however, verbal abuse can be more detrimental to a person’s health than physical abuse. If a person is verbally abused from childhood on, he or she may develop psychological disorders that plague them into and through adulthood.

Verbal abuse includes the following: countering, withholding, discounting, abuse disguised as a joke, blocking and diverting, accusing and blaming, judging and criticizing, trivializing, undermining, threatening, name calling, chronic forgetting, ordering, denial of anger or abuse, and abusive anger.^[5]

References

See also

• Bullying
• Domestic violence
• Emotional abuse
• Psychological manipulation
• Verbal self defense

External links

• Verbal Abuse (Teen Prevention)
• Warning Signs of a Verbal Abuser
• Verbal Abuse – Biblical Reference
• Verbal Self-Defense