Interfaith Marriages


Source: Muslim Sunrise, winter 2015 volume

Written and collected by Zia H Shah MD, Chief Editor of the Muslim Times

It was meant to be the happiest day of their lives – a celebration of modern multicultural Britain at the biggest Sikh Gurdwara (temple) in the Western world. On 7 August 2015, in West London, a British Sikh bride and her Polish Christian groom sat together and absorbed the religious blessings at their wedding ceremony. She wore a cream and red dress, while he wore a red turban, in keeping with Sikh traditions.

However, that morning, 20 uninvited men were determined to put a stop to the wedding. They stormed upstairs to the main hall and demanded that the priests end the ceremony, hurling insults at people who objected. One of them told a priest that, if their demands weren’t met, he would get 1,000 of his friends to come to the temple within the hour. The police were called and eventually the couple was forced to proceed into a hurried ceremony, while the protesters watched and took pictures of them to publish online.

This was not an isolated incident. The next weekend an interfaith wedding in Lozells, Birmingham, nearly turned into a mass brawl after protesters tried to stop it and, again, the police had to be called. The following weekend, another wedding in Coventry only managed to go ahead after some negotiations with the disrupters.

Read further online in a PDF file starting on page 21: 2015 winter volume of Muslim Sunrise

13 replies

  1. 4 Questions Every Interfaith Couple Should Ask Before Getting Serious

    Here’s some advice from the experts.
    02/03/2016 11:41 am ET
    By Carol Kuruvilla
    Religion Associate Editor, The Huffington Post
    Many interfaith couples trust that having the “same values” will be more important in the long run than having the same religion.

    Similar values can certainly strengthen the bonds between interfaith couples, but these values are often tested by familial and cultural expectations. A whole slew of questions (from Who will officiate at the wedding? to What will we teach our kids about God?) are bound to pop up over the course of the relationship — especially considering that Americans tend to get more religious as they get older.

    Dr. Charles Joanides, a marriage therapist based in Newburgh, New York, told The Huffington Post that one of the most common problems he’s seen come up in his practice is that couples aren’t honest with each other and with themselves about their religious differences.

    “Many end up sacrificing or compartmentalizing important parts of themselves to protect the relationship and/or keep the peace. They stop participating in significant rituals and celebrations and settle for less offensive, watered down ways of acknowledging religious celebrations like Easter, Christmas, Hanukkah or Ramadan,” Joanides wrote in an email.

    Talking through religious differences and finding commonalities can help couples build a vibrant spiritual life together. Here are a few questions that interfaith couples can consider while preparing to make a lifelong commitment.

  2. Base on Al Quran : 5, I support interfaith marriage as long as both really love each other.

    if both love each other, no religion can reject their marriage , if they do. that is evil-act–cruel–in the name of Islam.

    Muslim, Christian, and Jews are all Muslim–Islam–they follow Prophet Ibrahaam, faith.

    Was salam

  3. There is nothing in the Holy Quran which prohibits a Muslim woman marrying a man of another faith. The only restriction is that neither a Muslim man nor a Muslim woman should marry a polytheist. The definition of a polytheist is not just the one who believes in multiple Gods, he also has to be an active enemy of Islam, engaged in activities against the Faith.
    Also the ignorant guy in the debate who asserted that there is consensus on this issue was a complete idiot. He is the perfect example of what is wrong with Islam today. Our religion is in the Quran. If Quran does not prohibit something how can he or his friends come up with those restrictions.
    So a Muslim woman has equal rights in the matters of marriage compared to a Muslim man. And it is necessary to have the woman’s consent in the marriage. Her father or any other person serving as her guardian cannot over rule her will.

  4. A Muslim is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim.

    Marriage is as important to the future of the nation as climate change and poverty, a senior family lawyer said yesterday. Baroness Deech said the growing numbers of families without fathers was doing more harm to the next generation than other factors such as smoking, alcohol, poor diet and lack of exercise. And she warned that a conspiracy of silence surrounded the issue because political leaders were afraid to say married families were better for children than cohabiting families or single parent families. Children of single mothers have greater problems than those of cohabitee parents, and children of cohabitees have greater problems than those of married parents. Without both a mother and a father children don’t get the whole package when they are growing up and don’t develop the whole gamut of emotions. Children deserve natural parents who are prepared to make the act of commitment and aspiration found only in marriage, in order to demonstrate to those children that they intend to be there for them, without question, as they grow up.

    The wedding ceremony highlights the fact that marriage is the strongest bond ever invented to link together two people and two families, for now and posterity – intimately, legally, politically, religiously, civilly and publicly. God gave us instructions to follow so that we would live properly. Religion is pushed aside. It’s ok now to have children outside marriage. It’s ok to be homosexual. You don’t get punished properly for coming crime. It’s ok to sleep around and do what you want… Take God out of the equation and the world goes to rack and ruin. Just look at the world getting worse over the years. Oh, and before someone says religion causes war… Religion doesn’t cause wars. It’s mans own greed that twists religion to suit his need that causes war.

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