Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
“The most hateful permissible thing (al-Halal) in the sight of Allah is divorce.” (Abu Dawud)
Yet “A recent study conducted by Dr. Ilyas Ba-Yunus, a sociology professor at State University of New York, found an alarming increase in divorce rate among Muslims in North America reaching 31%.” (The Muslim Tribune)
Why is divorce on the rise among US Muslims?
Why are more and more families breaking down this precious bond of love and mercy?
Categories: Americas, United States
Everything said in the article is correct, however, I would have stated a bit more that divorce among Muslims just reflects the society that they live in in general. In the olden days the wives were busy having children and bringing them up. They did not have time to think of leaving. Now-a-days ladies have a high education, a job, and do not need the husbands income (many of them). They have only one or two children and therefore are not busy most of their lives bringing them up. It is therefore easier for them to leave then it used to be. And this argument goes for all – wether Muslims or not. But, yes, Muslims should be better in their social life, as they have such good examples by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him).
I agree to you Rafiq,
its just the possibility for women to leave their husband. In earlier times or bad developed countries there is a stigma, which makes them stay in an unhappy marriage. Moreover they have no way to feed themselves which makes them dependend on their husband. Education and independence leads to the same “immoral” behaviour in muslim countries as it does in the west.
In the West, the #1 problem with divorces among Muslims is unclear expectations, and misunderstandings of Islam regarding expecations from both spouses towards each others. Women think that they can work full time jobs and use up many hours of their marriage towards their careers, and not contribute a single dollar to the new family that they decided to build. This is not fair and not right. And it is also not part of Islam, because only the dowry is what really belongs to her. But other than that, if she works then she is expected to put the money towards building and advancing her family.
I think this is the #1 reason. At least, this is what I’ve seen here in the USA.
The most hateful permissible thing (al-Halal) in the sight of Allah is divorce.A recent study conducted by Dr. Ilyas Ba-Yunus, a sociology professor at State University of New York