The flight from marriage

Source/Credit: The Economist

Conservatives in the West are fond of saying that the traditional family is the bedrock of society. That view is held even more widely in Asia. The family is the focus of Confucian ethics, which holds that a basic moral principle, xiushen (self-improvement), can be pursued only within the confines of the family. In an interview in 1994 Lee Kuan Yew, a former prime minister of Singapore, argued that after thousands of years of dynastic upheaval, the family is the only institution left to sustain Chinese culture. It embodies a set of virtues—“learning and scholarship and hard work and thrift and deferment of present enjoyment for future gain”—which, he said, underpins Asia’s economic success. He feared that the collapse of the family, if it ever happened, would be the main threat to Singapore’s success.

His Malaysian contemporary, Mahathir Mohamad, went further. In a book written in 1995 with a Japanese politician, Shintaro Ishihara, Dr Mahathir contrasted Asians’ respect for marriage with “the breakdown of established institutions and diminished respect for marriage, family values, elders, and important customs” in the West. “Western societies”, Dr Mahathir claimed, “are riddled with single-parent families… with homosexuality, with cohabitation.” He might well have concluded that the absence of traditional family virtues from the streets of London recently showed the continued superiority of Asia.

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3 replies

  1. The traditional family is the bedrock of society!

    When governments fail, families are called upon to help return peace to society (recent UK riots).
    The situation was far less likely to have erupted if the families were in place in the first place.

  2. Unfortunately all societies have a problem with marriage these days. As you know in modern Muslim couples the divorce rate has risen too. According to George Friedman, in his book ‘the next 100 years’, the reason is mainly the fact that the ladies have fewer children then previously, which keeps them less busy…

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