Hitting Women – That’s Messed Up – Nouman Ali Khan

I believe every ayah is a perfect gift from Allah. So protecting the integrity of an ayah about hitting women is very important. A new episode of “That’s Messed Up” will be released every Monday, for a few weeks.

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  1. Once you start saying that Allah will let you get away with beating in fits of rage, then this is just as bad as beating whenever the woman is not obedient to her husband! Nouman still defends beating women violence against women which is ABUSE! Shame on him!

    In my reading of the verse it says when a couple are having problems, advise her, move out of ‘bed’ and THEN SEPERATE from her, not beat her. The next verse says bring arbitrators, family friends,marriage guidance councillors to sort out the causes of the problem as it is sometimes difficult for couples to see what is going on and how they got into this problematic situation.
    I have amended Yusuf Ali’s translation and see if it better fits the context:

    4:34. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, separate from them); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).
    4:35. If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: For Allah hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.

  2. I agree with the opinion of Jawaid.
    Words matter. Ancient translations of the Holy Quran need to be updated.
    I have a better translation of the verse 34 of Sura Al-Nisa.
    4:34= Men are responsible for maintaining their wives and protecting them because Allah has given them more strength. They support their wives from what God has given them. Therefore righteous women are obedient to God, and guard, in the husband’s, absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women who show rebellion and ill-conduct, talk to them (first), (Next), discontinue conjugal relations with them, (Next) and cite them before authority. If they reconcile, do not hold any grudge against them: For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).
    I know most Muslims want to convey the above meaning, but get tangled in the Arabic words and idioms. As for the so called “ulema” or leaders and teachers of religion including people like Mr. Nauman, it is very hard for them to break away from the traditional patriarchy. So they are best ignored.

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