Islam and Motherhood

Epigraph:

And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents. His mother bears him with pain, and brings him forth with pain. And the bearing of him and his weaning takes thirty months, till, when he attains his full maturity and reaches the age of forty years, he says, ‘My Lord, grant me the power that I may be grateful for Thy favour which Thou hast bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do such good works as may please Thee. And make my seed righteous for me. I do turn to Thee; and, truly, I am of those who submit to Thee.’ (Al Quran 46:15/16)

Arabic of the Hadith_Paradise is under the feet of your mothers

Arabic of the Hadith_Paradise is under the feet of your mothers

Mothers Day

From the Archives of Lajna Media Watch:  Islam and Motherhood, by Aziza Rahman PhD

The other day, my friend Sandi was complaining about her 82-year-old mother. “She still doesn’t think I can do anything right. No matter what I’m doing, she’ll tell me how to do it better. Sometimes I get so mad!”  I tried to soothe her, “Well, that’s because she is a mom. Mothers never stop being interested in their kids, no matter how old.” She thought for a minute, and then asked, “Do you think we’ll do the same to our kids?”  We looked at each other, then both of us nodded and said “Yup! We probably will!”  But on the heels of that depressing notion came a reassuring thought: I had an advantage over Sandi and had a great deal to be thankful for. I am hopeful that my children, as Muslims, will follow Islam’s beautiful guidelines for treatment of parents.

Islam expects children to maintain an attitude of love, affection, respect and kindness to their parents, even when they get to an old and difficult age, and to give them priority over all other things, except God. The Holy Quran contains a very comprehensive verse on this topic, which firstly tells Muslims to “…that ye show kindness to parents.”  Then for situations when the behavior of one or both of the parents becomes extremely trying and sometimes offensive, the verse continues “If one or both of them attain old age with thee, never say to them as much as ugh nor reproach them, but always address them with kindly speech. (17:24)    Then it says: “Lower to them the wing of humility out of tenderness….”       In other words, we must never forget what we owe to them for bringing us into this world and taking care of us. Finally comes this prayer “…and   say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them even as they nourished me when I was a little child.” (17:25)   Every aspect of the child-parent relationship is beautifully handled in this verse.

Islam, which is often wrongly accused of suppressing women’s rights, actually draws attention to the often thankless and unending work of mothers. The Holy Quran  recognizes the tremendous sacrifices  that women  make  to become mothers,  although they have the freedom to choose any career, when it states: “And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents – his mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning takes two years – and said, ‘Give thanks to Me and thy parents. Unto Me is the final return; (31:15)”

Unfortunately, this attitude towards motherhood, although endorsed by most other religions, has been somewhat lost in today’s society. Mothers in this country are still struggling with their status.   Mothers Ought To Have Equal Rights, or MOTHERS, is an organization that, according to its website, recognizes that: “In the past few decades women have made enormous progress, but many women who become mothers have been left behind. The work of caring for children and other dependent family members is still unpaid or grossly underpaid, disrespected, and unacknowledged by all of the major institutions in our society.” (www.mothersoughttohaveequalrights.org)   Mothering Magazine’s editorial says: “We desperately need to recognize the value of mothers, and no one should ever have to apologize again for being ‘just a mom’.” (www.mothering.com) 

Islam never views a mother as “just a mom”.  The founder of Islam, Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) elevated the status of mothers 1500 years ago to an unprecedented height when he declared that “Paradise lies under the feet of mothers.”  A small sentence, but it speaks volumes about motherhood.   While it gives mothers the important responsibility of making their homes into a ‘heaven on earth’ by creating a loving, warm and nurturing atmosphere for all the family, at  the same time it acknowledges and appreciates the complexity and value of this task by rewarding them with the ultimate prize – which is paradise.  No wonder that being so greatly honored and valued as mothers, the majority of Muslim women are happy to be stay-at-home moms.

Of course, Mother’s Day came and went and mothers were fêted for a day with cards, gifts and flowers. Although today it is seen as a general celebration of motherhood, it was actually founded to honor women who were trying to raise awareness of social problems.   In 1905, Anna Jarvis began campaigning for a day to memorialize the work of her mother, also named Anna Jarvis, who had highlighted sanitation problems in her community; she eventually  succeeded in 1914. However, what began as a day of prayer and thanksgiving for mothers rapidly became more commercial. In fact, before her death in 1948, Jarvis is said to have regretted ever starting the Mother’s Day tradition because she believed that the day’s sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit. What would she have thought about it today, with sixty-nine million sites listed on the Web for Mother’s Day gifts, flowers etc.?

I know that while I will always treasure the homemade cards and gifts my children made for me at school when they were younger, I am very thankful for the honor that Islam has given me in making each day a Mother’s day.

10 replies

  1. What Allah said to Prophet Jesus about Mother.
    GIVE YOUR MOTHER HAPPINESS!
    .
    Listen to your father who begot you, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
    Let your father and mother be glad, let he who bore you rejoice.Proverb.
    .
    Who ever curse his father and mother, his lamp will put out in deep darkness.Proverb.20;20
    .
    Listen to your father, without him you would not exits.
    When your mother is old, show her appreciation.
    Let your father and mother be proud of you; give your mother that happiness.Proverb 22.
    .
    With all my love

  2. In Islam, Parent’s rights are next to those of Almighty Allah. After the description of the Unity of Almighty Allah, the Holy Quran has repeatedly ordered for the most pleasant and submissive behavior with the parents. The Qur’an says:

    “Worship and serve God, do not associate any partners with Him, and do good to your parents…” (4:36).

    Although Islam recognizes both parents, mothers are given particular gratitude and respect. The right of the mother to be served and treated nicely is three times greater than that of the father. This attitude of Islam is better understood if we realize the hardships and suffering that mothers experience in their lives.

    In Holy Quran. Allah Al-mighty informs man of the debt he owes his mother since he was a fetus, passing by the process of childbirth, infancy, childhood until he comes of age. A child normally forgets the hardship which his mother underwent during pregnancy. Hence Almighty Allah draws his attention to such hardships, laying emphasis on her great status in Islam.

    Blessed are those who have this wonderful thing in their life. She deserves recognition and appreciation for being a significant part of our lives. She is the only person who shower unconditional love on her children and pray for their goodwill until her last breath. Paradise awaits those who cherish and respect their mothers.

    The role of a father is also highly recognized in Islam. The Holy Prophet (saw) said that, “God’s pleasure is in the pleasure of the father, and God’s displeasure is in the displeasure of the father.”
    He also said “A father is the best gate of the gates of Paradise; so it is up to you, either you lose that gate (by disobeying him), or protect it (by obeying him)”. (Tirmidhi).
    Fathers are significant because they are commanded by Allah to work hard to provide the physical, educational, psychological, and spiritual needs of a child.

    May Allah help us to be respectful children to our parents.

  3. Reblogged this on Progressive Islam. and commented:
    I love this Hadith
    Arabic of the Hadith_Paradise is under the feet of your mothers—
    But unfortunately, there is no a mothey day in Arab tradition or in Islsmic tradition—

    I would like to urge Muslim to celeberate a mother day-/ this is a excellent tradition from the West culture—of course a mother will be happy to receive a folower or a gift from her sons.

    Happy Mother day to all Mother around the world.
    May God bless all mothers. Amen

    All our love ❤️

    • ha ha ha. One day for mother? and you think it is a good idea? Every day is mother’s day in the life of a Muslim !

    • In Islam everyday is Mother’s Day, and we pray every day, to Allah, “And say, ‘My Lord, have mercy on them even as they nourished me in my childhood.’(17:25) . The status of mother is so high in Islam that children can achieve paradise by being kind, compassionate, understanding, to her and serving her like she did them when the were little.

      The Promised Messiah (may peace be upon him) tells us that a mother never expects a payment or reward for being kind to her child. Everything she does is done out of love alone. There is no other reason for her to love her child. A mother is like a river of mercy for her child because the child comes from her and is nourished by her.

  4. ADVICE TO YOUNG MEN & GIRLS.
    You may be sure that wisdom is good for your soul.Get wisdom and you have a bright future.Wisdom is offers you long life as well as wealth and honor. Wisdom can make your life pleasant and lead you safely through it

    Listen to your father who begot you, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
    Let your father and mother be glad, let he who bore you rejoice.Proverb.
    Who ever curse his father and mother, his lamp will put out in deep darkness.Proverb.20;20

    Listen to your father, without him you would not exits.
    When your mother is old, show her appreciation.
    Let your father and mother be proud of you; give your mother that happiness.Proverb 22.

    And, out kindness, lower to them the wing of humality, and say: My lord bestow on them the Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.”QS 17;24

    Dan rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap mereka berdua dengan penuh kesayangan dan ucapkanlah: Wahai tuhanku, kasihanlah mereka keduanya, sebagaimana mereka berdua telah mendidik aku dengan kasih sayang waktu kechil” QS 17:24.

    Hopefully young Muslim can practice these wisdom of God in dayly life.Amen

    All our ❤️

  5. Continue—-

    And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you are dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, underestimate, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor.(QS.17:23).

    Be honest and you will be safe.If you are dishonest, you will suddenly fall. Proverb.28.
    Honest people are be safe and secure, but the dishonest will be caught. Proverb 10.
    Honest people will lead a full happy life. But if you are a hurry to get rich, you are going to punished.Proverb 28.

    An honest answer is a sign of true friendship.Proverb 24.
    Be honest and you show that you have reverence for God; be dishonest and you show that you do not. Proverb 14;2

    If you are good,you are guided by honesty. People who can’t be trusted are destroyed by their own dishonesty.Proverb 11;3.
    Oh you who believe!, keep your duty for God,and fear God, and speak always the truth QS.33;70.

    Hopefully young Muslim can practice these wisdom of God in dayly life.Amen

    All our ❤

  6. Continue—
    To Be successful and prosperous, people have to work and learn harder.

    As ALLAH said.
    God said; “You will have to work hard and sweat to make the soil produce anything, until you go back to the soil from which you were formed. You were made from the soil, and you will become soil again” (Genesis 3.18-19.)

    You work hard for your world as if you will live for ever, work hard for your afterlife as if you die tomorrow. HR.Bayhaqi.

    Allâh will exalt in degree those of you who believe, and those who have been granted knowledge. And Allâh is Well-Acquainted with what you do. QS 58; 11.

    Seek knowledge even into the land of China. HR.Muslim.
    Seek knowledge until you die. HR. Muslim.
    Hard work will make you power; being lazy will make you a slave. Proverb 12; 24.
    Being lazy make you poor,but hard work will make you rich. Proverb 10:4.

    Hopefully young Muslim can practice these wisdom of God in dayly life.Amen

    All our ❤

  7. Continue—

    How to be successful in this world and hereafter.

    Be kind and honest and you will live a long life; other will respect you and treat you fairly. Proverb 21:21

    Intelligent people want to learn,but stupid people are satisfied with ignorance. Proverb 15;14

    Why is a clever person wise? Because he know what to do. why a stupid person foolish? Because he only thinks he knows.Proverb. 14 ;8

    Wise man want to learn as much as possible,but stupid people are satisfied with ignorance.Proverb 15;14 .

    Wise People live in wealth and luxury,but stupid people spend money as fast as they get it. Proverb 21;20.

    And it is also revealed to me) that if they had stood firm on the (right) way, We would have supplied water to them in abundance,prosperity. QS.72:(16).

    “Be sure that the book of law is always read in your worship.Study it day and night,and make sure that you obey everything written in it( Al Kitab). Then you will be prosperous and successful. Joshua; 1:8-9 .

    And for those who fear Allah, He prepares a way out ( successful ) (2) And He provides for him from (prosperity) he never could imagine.QS 65;2-3

    “You will have to work hard and sweat to make the soil produce anything, until you go back to the soil from which you were formed. You were made from the soil, and you will become soil again” (Gen. 3.18-19.)

    Being lazy make you poor, but hard work will make you rich. Proverb 10:4
    Wise people are rewarded with wealth,but fool are known by their foolishness. Proverb 14:24.

    Work harder for your world as if you’ll live for ever, work hard for your hereafter as if you die tomorrow. Hadist.

    Hopefully young Muslim can practice these wisdom of God in dayly life.Amen

    All our ❤

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