10 things the Quran says about domestic violence

By Olamide Oni; who is a Senior Associate at Pulse. She is a creative writer, music lover, and a borderline-obsessed Harry Potter fan. When she isn’t working on her first bestseller (fingers-crossed) she is chasing around her two rambunctious kids. Email: olamide.oni@ringier.ng

It is important to live your life according to the will of God so knowing what the Holy Book says about various aspect of life is pertinent.

Domestic violence is against the law, but is it also a sin against God? See what the Q’uran says about it below.

1. ‘Husbands should take full care of their wives, with [the bounties] God has given to some more than others and with what they spend out of their own money. Righteous wives are devout and guard what God would have them guard in the husbands’ absence. If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, hit them lightly. If they obey you, you have no right to act against them. God is most high and great.’ (4:34)

2. And among His signs is this: He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.”  (Sura 30 Ayat 21)

3. The Believers, men and women, are protectors one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil: they observe regular prayers, practice regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise. (Sura 9 Ayat 71)

4. “The nobler among you in the sight of God is the more righteous among you.” (Quran, 49:13)

5. “O you who believe, it is not lawful for you to take women as heritage against (their) will. Nor should you straiten them by taking part of what you have given them, unless they are guilty of manifest indecency. And treat them kindly. Then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it.” (Quran, 4:19).

6. “Retain them in kindness or release them in kindness. But do not retain them to their hurt so that you transgress (the limits). If anyone does that he wrongs his own soul. Do not take God’s instructions as a jest“ (Qur’an 2:231).

7. Once the prophet, on whom be peace, was asked what are the obligations of husbands toward their wives. He replied: ‘Feed her when you eat, and provide her clothing when you provide yourself. (When you are in anger) neither hit her on the face nor use impolite language when addressing her.’

8. O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honored of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things) (Qur’an, 49:13).


Categories: Domestic violence, Quran, Women

5 replies

  1. “If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, hit them lightly. “QS 4;34

    From my perspective;
    This verse is applicable, if wife is less educated woman. But if a wife is an educated person, this rule is not applicable anymore.
    A wife and husband are equal at home. A husband can not hit (punish, beat) his wife, even though lightly.

    It is obvious that Allah sent His laws in the context of time, at era primitive time, where women live daylong at home to take care her children

    Was salam

  2. This is what happens when people start debating on the translation of a word which is so misunderstood. Since Quran was translated by men living in patriarchal societies, this wrong translation took root, The fact of the matter is that the word “Wadhribu” which is derived from the root “Daraba” has been used in the Quran more than 50 times in different forms. At no place it means one person hitting another.
    Quran does not permit domestic violence. It teaches love and compassion for even animals. How could it permit a man to hit his wife! This is against the teachings of Islam.
    There is no place for domestic violence in Islam.

  3. The time of prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was slavery era, where women were dominated by the rule of male.Male and female were not equal right. It is obvious in Al Quran Allah and prophet say; male is a protector of female and children, and male is the one to provide foods, female receive inheritance 1/2 than male, male can have many wives, male were allowed to have many slaves (male and female). The duty of female were to take care their children and stay daylong at home. Male and female could not seat side by side, could not shake hand male and female. Arab people specially Saudi Arabia still uphold these tradition from one generation to the next generation.They are so proud with their tradition.

    So, when we look at Prophet Muhammad’s time, obviously female were a second class in society. Tha is why;

    A husband can hit, punish his wife—-female receive 1/2 inheritance than male—female were not allowed to go out side without a male—female were not allowed to become a leader in society–

    And the system of justice at that time was harsh. Those who commit a crime will be punish harshly; cut off hand–beheading–flogging, hanging, even stoning–

    If a man is caught in town having intercourse with a girl who is engaged to someone else, stone both of them to death (Deuteronomy. 21)

    Cut off the feet,hands, beheading, crucifixion, flogging , hanging, etc.
    The punishment of those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger, and strive with might and main for mischief through the land is: execution, or crucifixion or the cutting off of hands and feet from opposite sides, or exile from the land: that is their disgrace in this world, and a heavy punishment is theirs in the Hereafter.― (QS 5; 33).

    From my perspective.
    These laws are fit for people who live in jungle, and at ancient times. These laws are not fit in Modern society anymore.

    We want to know; does Ahmadiyah support the ancient laws above, as Saudi Arabia, Isis etc still implement these laws till this present.

    Was Salam–Love all

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