Muslim Parents on How They Talk to Their Children About Hatred and Extremism

A Muslim parent in Tokyo tells her children to “work 100 times harder” and “be 100 times kinder.” A father in Ontario advises his teenagers to be wary of anyone reaching out to them over the Internet and claiming to be Muslim. “ISIL is trying to recruit you,” he tells them, referring to the Islamic State.

Parents around the United States tell their children that they can be both American and Muslim — no matter what anyone says, they do not need to choose between the two.

A wave of recent attacks by extremists acting in the name of Islam — including in San Bernardino, Calif., this month — has contributed to a rise in anti-Muslim speech in the United States, Europe and elsewhere. We asked our readers who are Muslim how they talk to their children about these difficult times.

More than 200 people responded. Many wrote about how they try to teach their children that terrorists do not reflect them or their faith.



Categories: America, Canada

8 replies

  1. Without the equivalents of San Bernardino or Paris etc, anti-Christian sentiments have seen the upswing not only in muslim countries but it even follows the muslims to the West where they migrate. There are reported attacks on Christians in refugee camps where the concern should be survival.The muslims want to survive on the benevolence of the West but they do not want the Christians to be so lucky.
    While there is nonsensical talks about muslims in the West fearing to stand out in public like sore thumps, even when nobody does anything but cast a passing glance at them, to be suspected of being a Christian is a deadly affair in muslim communities including those in the West where they are a significant minority.
    Yet these victims of hate and ingratitude still get on with their lives while the muslims do nothing but whine and kill.

  2. …..and get handsomely rewarded for their ‘humanitarian missions’ to Baghdad. After all, there are other hot spots, like Somalia, which requires ‘humanitarian missions’ too.

  3. It still could have been zero dollars per day to make it ‘humanitarian’. ‘Hazard pay’ is only one aspect of the remuneration.
    Darfur, South Sudan before independence, Somalia, etc needed and still need ‘humanitarian missions’. The choice of Iraq was influenced by the prospects of better and more lucrative opportunities.


    Muslim really need a reformation of Interpretation of Al Quran–Muslim really need to remore all violence hadith from the boom of Hadith.

    All Muslim Scholars, Imams, Schools and parents have to teach the true Islamic teaching such as;

    Prophet Muhammad pbuh said;You do not believe in Allah yet, if you do not love your neighbor, you do not love Allah yet, if you hate your neighbor.

    This Golden Rule is found in Christianity,
    Judaism, and other religions. This is the message we must give the next generation.

    Allah commandment should be obeyed;
    Love your neighbor as you love your self, if you keep hating, biting and devouring each other, and then watch out you will be destroyed completely one another.

    3. Romans 12:20 On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.

    4. Laviticus 19:33. Do not mistreat or oppress a foreigner in living in your country, love them as you love self. Remember that you were foreigner in Egypt”.

    5. John 2:10-11. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble. But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him.

    6. Luke 6:28 Bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

    Love is the seed of peace and happiness, but hatred is the seed of the darkness and violence

    Wassalamu’alaikum wr wb
    With my love.


    • Ali: The ‘updated form of Islam’ is Ahmadiyyat. Please read the Muslim Times carefully and also visit We are indeed fortunate to have a divinely appointed Khalifa who gives us the ‘reformation’ or ‘update’ that you are looking for. If every ‘Tom, Dick, and Harr’ (or Ali, Mohammad and Ahmad) would come up with his own version of ‘update’ we would get no where. Divide Guidance, as granted through Khilafat, is what is needed and what is here!

  5. Thanks, Rafiq, for your nice intention. I read a lot about Ahmadiyah’s faith, Yes indeed, Ahmadiyah is one of reformer, and spread Islamic teaching peacefully and spread love and compassion. I agree, I like that—but from my view, Ahmadiyah need more reformation.

    For example;

    Muslim Ahmadiyah has to reject the ancient criminal sentence such as; beheading, flogging, cut off the hand, hanging etc. and the execution of these sentence is conducted at front of public.Very pity and sad.

    Muslim Ahmadiyah also has to reject some violent Hadith such as; apostate, Blaspheme, gay-lesbian witch Extremist Muslim justify their action to punish and kill apostate, Blaspheme and gay -lesbian etc every where.

    Because of blasphemous law, many Muslim Ahmadiyah have been punished and killed by extremist Muslim. It is very sad, heartbreaking and embarrassing.

    From my view Muslim Ahmadiyah need more reformation of Islamic teaching.

    Was Salam
    With my love

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