Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs


It is made lawful for you to go in unto your wives on the night of the fast. They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them. Allah knows that you have been acting unjustly to yourselves, wherefore He has turned to you with mercy and afforded you relief. (Al Quran 2:187/188)

And those who say, ‘Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.’ It is such as will be rewarded paradise in this very life, because they were steadfast, and they will be received therein with greeting and peace.  (Al Quran 25:74-75/75-76)


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This book reveals the secret to couples meeting each other’s deepest needs–without love she reacts without respect, and without respect he reacts without love, and a painful, negative cycle begins.

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A wife has one driving need?to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need?to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love & Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.

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5 replies

  1. The article seems a bit dated, even if it is religion-based. Women should be loved, takes us back to a time when a woman’s place was considered to be in the kitchen, and a man’s role was as master of the house warranting appropriate respect. We have evolved since those days, and women have struggled for some considerable time to achieve equality, although there is still some distance to go. Surely, the whole matter should be about couples loving and respecting each other equally.

    • Reminds me of the discussion in a Swiss pub among a group of men. One guy said ‘There is no problem in my household, I decide the big things and let my wife decide the small things’. When asked what are the big things and what are the small things, he replied: ‘The big things: Whether Switzerland should join the United Nations, whether Switzerland should join the European Union’, ‘the small things: what car we should buy, where we should live, where we should go on holiday, what we should do next weekend, etc.’.

  2. Rafiq A. Tschannen – In a good relationship everything should be discussed and decided between the two parties.

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